Puberty: Different phases of puberty
The developing section puberty can be divided into different phases. One speaks of the prepubertal, the generally begins at the end of primary school, the High puberty, in the physical-sexual and mental development in full swing, and the late adolescent phase, entering from about the age of 16.
An important topic during all phases of puberty is sex. Sexuality includes not only the sexual intercourse. People are sexual beings from birth and begin long before the actual puberty, to be interested in sex. Pre-school age children begin to deliberately touch their external genitalia. This reflects the desire for sexual experiences reflects. Also a first interest in the opposite sex is already in primary school.
From about the age of nine in boys hormonal changes cause they are sexually mature and change the external and internal genitalia in girls and around the eleventh year of life around. It comes first in love and erotic fantasies. Sexual impulses are stronger and masturbation (masturbation) is an issue.
Puberty is not from now on the same one - which gives parents and children time to adjust to this exciting time with many changes. For most children, pubertal signs for the first time towards the end of primary school noticeable; about at this point is where the pre-puberty.
Girls and boys begin to question the established by the parents' rules and increasingly want to make their own decisions. They strive for independence and refuse in her eyes like a "toddler" treat to have. At the same time children need their parents at this stage increasingly as a discussion partner and contact for knowledge questions.
Children now disappearing more and more in her room and do not want to be disturbed by the parents. The sexuality is hidden from others and also for parents. This "Withdraw" is a first sign that children are independent. but at other times again they still have a need for closeness and family security and still want "his child". For parents to get the close parent-child relationship maintains a good opportunity. This pre-pubescent phase usually lasts one to two years.
Boy bubble in the pre-puberty frequently with energy and power; they are constantly in motion and test their skills with peers in scuffles and sports. Hours of sitting still in school is almost impossible for many boys at that age.
For girls before puberty is an exciting phase with a stronger movement and pressured speech and physical restlessness. Girls at this age are often silly, giggling and whispering like.
Before the first menstruation is becoming more common mood swings. Many girls are moody - sometimes they are gregarious, sometimes they prefer to be alone. They often spend hours with her friends and chatting. Topic are often crushes that often occur in girls at this stage. Here, the attention to a boy or even addressed as a pop star can be.
The transition period between child and adulthood is reflected particularly well in children's rooms resist: Common cuddly toys are here located next to posters of stars.
About between 12 and 16 years is where most young people in the High puberty. During this time the physical and mental and sexual development is in full swing. If girls and boys are sexually mature, they will find much embarrassed, especially with regard to changes in your own body. They avoid to appear naked in front of parents and siblings. Not infrequently one sees wander that compare the development of one's body with that of other young people in this age bashful glances.
Emotional outbursts as loud giggle or loud conversations in public to show that the mental development is in full swing: Teens find their place in society and try to compete with each other. Peers are as caregivers more important. young people seek understanding with them and share common experiences.
At puberty, also the opposite sex is increasingly an issue. Many young people now know the first falling in love. Discover the kisses and the exchange of tenderness, many have for the first time sexual intercourse. Now it is for the parents at the time the subject prevention to appeal.
Other issues affecting the evening staying away and the nightly visit to the first friend / girlfriend of the first be discussed - and often lead to disagreements between parents and teenagers. The amount of pocket money and performance in school may develop a point of contention during this period.
Many parents complain about an increasing reticence of their children during puberty. Pubescent not want the other way around, that the parents get involved in everything - often they do not feel understood by the parents and discuss their problems better with friends.
Of the late adolescent phase we talk about age 16. When this age is reached, the waves tend to have somewhat smoothed. Young people have become accustomed to the change processes of puberty and cope better with their progressive adulthood - and the parents have gathered in her new role at this time usually. They have accepted that their children be independent and experience sexuality.
Nevertheless, it may still come at this stage to discussions. However, young people increasingly represent their own opinions and be less and less influence from the parents. Now is the time that parents and children understand to break apart and concede mutual freedom. However, this need not mean, conversely, that they need to lose contact with each other.